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Paraphilias - The Words of Sexual Deviancy

I've taken these lists from various web sites; I'll post the links when I get them. The first list is tongue-in-cheek, the others are more clinical. By the way, the words are real and the definitions were taken verbatim from the sites.

Acomoclitic - Shaved and completely hairless genitals are a turn-on.

Agoraphilia -Gettin' it on out in public is hot, hot, hot!

Alphmegamia -Bring on the older, seasoned men.

Altocalciphilia -High heels make this person horny.

Antholagnia -The scent of a flower brings about that special tingly feeling.

Asthenolagnia -When this person's partner is mamby-pamby, this makes him or her quite randy.

Cunnilalia -Just talking about female genitalia gives this person the proverbial or actual woody.

Cunnilingus -Tonguing vulva is titillating.

Doraphilia -The feeling of fur or skin is sensual and erotic.

Graophilia -Older females are hotties, and The Graduate is probably a favorite movie.

Gymnophilia -Turned on by nudity. Oh come on, who isn't? Sheesh.

Gynonudomania -If the thought of ripping clothes off of other people fills you with lust, you are a gynonudomanian. You should probably also invest in several credit cards to replace those quickly dissipating wardrobes.

Hirsutophilia -Aroused by armpit hair and, most probably, Berkeley.

Macrogenitalism -Are you aroused by large genitals? Scandalous!

Medolalia -This person could hang with a cunnilalist since this person is aroused by talking about everything phallus.

Miscegenation -When two people of different races get it on, this person wants to get it on.

Omolagnia -Aroused by nudity? Freak. (Hey, wasn't that Gymnophilia?)

Phallophilia -This person only wants penises of unusual size, namely gargantuan.

Pubephilia -Don't ever shave for this person, because pubic hair is where it's at.

Tripsolagnia -A trip to the hairdresser is heaven, especially getting their hair managed or shampooed.

Tripsophilia -Sensual massage is the only kind of massage, baby.

Chremastistophilia -This person gets off on the idea of being robbed. Say chremastistophilian three times fast, I dare you.

Coulrophilia -This person wants a clown to entertain their pants off while playing with that long, red balloon.

Electrophilia -Electricity is hot. Some say even shocking.

Eproctophilia -"Beans! Beans! The magical fruit! The more you eat, the more you…" This person is horny whenever farting is involved. An ideal date might begin at Taco Bell, or perhaps with cabbage, beans, and a Farrelly Brothers movie.

Exhibitionism -This is someone who enjoys surprising others by exposing their naughty bits. I'm thinking an omolagnian would probably get along really well with this person.

Fisting -This person is aroused by either being the receiver or giver of a hand, fist, or forearm into the rectum or vagina. This also appears to be one of the few fetishes that can be easily pronounced.

Gerontophilia -This is an attraction to the old and enfeebled. If you're a gerontophiliac, you probably love raisins. Rent Harold and Maude.

Gynemimetophilia -The thought of someone who was born a man, but now stands corseted, made up better than Tammy Faye, in a dress and belting out "Wind Beneath my Wings," seriously gets this person off. It just has to be female impersonator or a male to female transsexual. Rent Tootsie or The Birdcage.

Harpaxophilia -There should be a dot-com site where chremastistophilians and harpaxophilians can hook up, because harpaxophilians are turned on by burglary.

Hebephilia -Teenagers make this person randy. Rent Bring It On with Kirsten Dunst.

Hierophilia -This person gets off on sacred objects such as crosses. I would say rent The Exorcist, but if that movie gets you hot, I need to bump this definition down a category or two. I

atronudia -Doctor, doctor! This person loves exposing him or herself to a physician. The health insurance bills must be staggering…

Kleptophilia -The only difference between this person and someone giving themselves the five-finger discount is that this person gets horny when they steal.

Lactaphilia -Mammaries full of milk don't make just babies happy...

Maieusiophilia -Pregnant women make this person hot under the collar. This should be good news to moms-to-be asking "Do I look like a cow or what?"

Martymachlia -Aroused by having others watch during sex. Get these folks hooked up with a voyeur, pronto.

Nasophilia -This person gets mentally erect about their partner's nose. Even though this fetish description is somewhat vague, the name is just a scream.

Nymphomania/Satyriasis -Even though these folks are aroused by the uncontrollable desire of woman/men for sex, I'm envisioning cloven-hoofed flute-players and winged horses prancing merrily in the forest.

Ochlophilia -If you get turned on by being in a crowd, you need to get a job working security at Ozzfest.

Oculophilia -It's said that the eyes are the window to the soul. An oculophiliac thinks they are the viagra of the face.

Oculolinctus -Aroused by licking their partner's eyeball. I don't think I need to add anything here.

Odaxelagnia -Bite me. No, really, bite me!

Ozolagnia - "Ooooo, that smell! Can you smell that smell? Oooooooo, that smell!" Outside of bad old Lynyrd Skynyrd references, Ozolagnians are turned on by powerful scents.

Parthenophilia -These people have a desire to deflower virgins. You know, find a virgin, grab the flowers right out of their hands and trample them for the sheer joy of it. They're just so mean.

Phygephilia -Turned on by being a fugitive. If you also fantasize about finding the one-armed man, you may be a Richardkimballiac.

Podophilia -This fairly common fetish finds folks getting hot and bothered about feet. To each his own. Retifism -Turned on by shoes. Would this be also known as Imeldaism?

Spectrophilia -These people get aroused by either coitus with spirits or from images in mirrors. While I can see the mirrors over the bed thing happening, I'm wondering about the spirit thing. Isn't The Enquirer still offering a bazillion dollars for proof? Why aren't these people rich by now? Is the truth really out there?

Thesauromania -While the name makes me envision someone with an insatiable Rand McNally habit, it really means people who are turned on by collecting women's clothing and stuff. T

hlipsosis -Ow! Oooooooo. Oh! Mmmmmmmmm. Turned on by pinching.

Transvestitism -This person has a secret bigger than Victoria's, because they feel absolutely divine cross-dressing.

Voyeurism -They like to watch. (Sounds like a good book title to me!)


acrotomophilia: sexual attraction to amputees coprophilia: sexual attraction to feces

dendrophilia: sexual arousal from trees

emetophilia: sexual attraction to vomit

ephebophilia: sexual attraction to adolescents

galactophilia: sexual attraction to human milk or lactating women

gerontophilia: sexual attraction to the aged

hematolagnia: sexual attraction to blood

hybristophilia: sexual arousal by people who have committed crimes, in particular cruel or outrageous crimes

klismaphilia: sexual pleasure from enemas

maiesiophilia: sexual attraction to childbirth or pregnant women

mysophilia: sexual attraction to foul or decaying material

pictophilia: inability to become sexually aroused except through the use of pictorial pornography

plushophilia: sexual attraction to stuffed toys

infantilism: sexual pleasure from dressing, acting, or being treated as a baby s

cotophilia: sexual attraction to darkness

sitophilia: sexual arousal from food

xylophilia: sexual attraction to wood



Acrotomophilia - The person is sexually aroused by the sight of an amputation usually of a whole arm or leg.

Adolescentilism - The person is aroused by impersonating both the dress and behavior of an adolescent.

Andromimetophilia - A woman who is sexually aroused by impersonating a man. They purposefully look like and act like a man.

Apotemnophilia - This person is sexually aroused by having a part of their body amputated either by themselves or someone else. The memory of the amputation can serve to arouse them for years. It is the act of having an extremity amputated that is arousing; thus, they have to be awake during the process.

Asphyxiophilia - This is sexual arousal caused by loss of control over your ability to breathe. Self strangulation or allowing another person to asphyxiate you.

Autagonistophilia - Unlike exhibitionism where the person intentionally exposes their genitals to an unsuspecting stranger, in this paraphilia the person creates situations in which other people could see them in the nude if the person wanted to. For example, it would be like leaving your curtains open and walking around the house naked in hopes that someone would peep in the windows. It is the thought that someone may be watching that is sexually arousing.

Autassassinophilia - The person is sexually aroused by putting themselves in situations in which they may be killed. They really have to feel they are in danger in order to be sexually aroused. Unfortunately, many of them get killed in the process. Autonepiophilia This is the same thing as infantilism.

Biastophilia- In this paraphilia the person is sexually aroused by the idea of being raped. This is scripted and planned out ahead of time with a partner. The person does not actually want to be raped by a stranger.

Catheterophila - The person is sexually aroused by the insertion of a catheter.

Chrematistophilia - This person can only become sexually aroused if they are being blackmailed into it.

Coprophilia - Smearing human feces on yourself or having someone smear it on you causing sexual arousal.

Coprophagia - Eating and ingesting human feces.

Ephebophilia - This is a form of pedophilia, but the person is very specific in the size, shape, and amount of body hair the pre-pubescent child has.

Erotophonophilia - These people are dangerous. They are sexually aroused by attempts not just thoughts of killing someone.

Formicophilia - Sexual arousal is caused by having insects crawl on their genitals.

Gerontophilia - The person is only sexually aroused by a significantly older person. There has to be at least a 15 year difference between their ages.

Gynemimetophilia - A person who is sexually aroused by a female impersonator.

Hybristophilia - Sexual relations with a convicted criminal. Hyphephilia Touching or rubbing a human or non human object is essential for achieving sexual arousal.

Hypoxphilia - The same as asphyxiophilia.

Infantilism - Dressing as an infant and acting the role of a child under two years old is sexually arousing. This can including some or all body hair and the hiring of a nurse or nanny to take care of you.

Kleptophilia - Similar to kleptomania, kleptophilia results in sexual arousal from stealing not just thrill seeking.

Klismaphilia - Getting an enema is sexually arousing. More liquid is associated with greater pleasure.

Mixophilia - The person likes to watch their partner or themselves engage in sexual activity. Usually this means watching themselves in a mirror.

Morphophilia - Peculiar body shapes and sizes are sexually arousing such as heavy, short, dwarfism, etc.

Mysophilia - The person is sexually aroused by dirt, mud, or filth.

Narratophilia Telling dirty stories is sexually arousing.

Necrophilia - Engaging in sexual activities with dead people.

Nepiophilia - The person is sexually aroused by infants. This can range from newborns to about two years old.

Olfactophilia - The person is sexually aroused by body smells. Usually inserting finger anus, vagina, etc. and smelling it during sex.

Pictohilia - Watching X-rated films is sexually arousing.

Raptophilia - Same as biastophilia.

Scoptophilia - Same as mixophilia.

Somnophilia - The person can only maintain sexual arousal while having sex with someone who is sleeping. If the person wakes up they lose interest.

Stigmatophilia - Body piercing and tattooing but not ear piercing is sexually arousing.

Symphorphilia - Natural disasters are sexually arousing. T

elephonicophilia - Talking dirty on the phone or being talked to lewdly.

Urophilia - Being urinated on or urinating on someone. Golden showers

Zoophilia - The person wants to be treated like an animal wearing a collar and even eating out of an animals dish. This is different from bestiality in which the person wants to have sex with an animal.


AGE PLAY Role-playing the persona of someone substantially younger (or sometimes older) than your actual age.

BONDAGE Physical materials applied to a submissive or slave to restrain their ability to move and/or to otherwise restrict them. Also, the act of placing the submissive or slave in such materials.

BOTTOM A slang term for a submissive and/or masochist. Many people use the word "bottom" to mean specifically someone who enjoys being given various sensations, as opposed to a "submissive", who enjoys being controlled.

BOTTOM SPACE The psychological "head space" or attitude of being submissive.

BOY A submissive (often, but not always, male) who relates to their dominant in a child-to parent mode. More common among gay men and lesbians.

BRAT A submissive who enjoys rebelling in a childlike way against their dominant. Brats are fairly common in the spanking scene.

CONSENSUAL An activity done with the consent of adults competent to give that consent. One of the central features of SM play..

COUNTING GAMES Rituals engaged in during whipping, flogging, spanking , or during other forms of flagellation, in which the submissive (or slave) is required to keep count f the number of strokes delivered, often thanking the Master after each one and asking for more. Example: "Thats five, Sir. Thank you Sir, Sir, please may I have another, Sir?"

DADDY A dominant (usually, but not always, male) who has a submissive "boy" and who relates to that submissive in a parent/child mode. More common among gay men and lesbians, but gaining currency among heterosexuals and bisexuals as well.

DISCIPLINE Training by a Master in how they wish their submissive or slave to behave. Also, the punishment and correction administered by the Master when the submissive fails to act in the proper manner.

DOMINANT One who enjoys assuming control. One who decidees what happens and when. A dominant may or may not be sadistic.

FLAGELLATION The general act of one person striking another, usually in an erotic context. Includes spanking, paddling, flogging and whipping.

FLOGGER A multi-tailed whip in which the tails are long, flat strips of leather or a similarly flexible material.

HUMILIATION Activities which cause the submissive to feel shame, embarrassment, or degradation. Varies widely from person to person. Possibly psychologically explosive..

MASTER A term for a male dominant. Often used as a term of address, such as "Master Tom". It is often considered somewhat rude to address a man by this term without being first given permission to do so.

MASTER-slave RELATIONSHIP An ongoing SM relationship in which the slave is submissive to a male dominant.

MONDAY MORNING REBOUND SYNDROME Feelings of remorse, disgust, fear, and so forth that sometimes emerge hours or days after a person willingly, and often lustily, takes part in SM play.

MUMMIFICATION Immobilizing bondage, usually done by wrapping the submissive in many coils of materials such as plastic wrap, or by placing the submissive in a body bag designed for this purpose.

NOVICE A person just beginning to learn about and explore SM. Often treated with special kindness and attention by the more experienced members of the community or by the MASTER.

SADIST As loosely defined with the SM Community, a person who specifically enjoys administering pain. A person may be dominant without being sadistic. It's also possible to be sadistic without being dominant.

SADOMASOCHISM A rather vague term referring generally to fantasies and experiences regarding the introduction of domination, submission, bondage, sadism, masochism, humiliation, and related activities into erotic play.

SAFEWORD A specific word or other signal used, by prior agreement, to indicate that things are "really" becoming too intense for the person. Usally used by the submissive or slave, but may also be used by the dominant. "Safeword" itself is sometimes used at SM parties to signal a desire for outside intervention.

SLAVE A person who has an on-going, structured relationship with a dominant or Master. One who assumes the submissive role, often in a highly developed and committed way to a particular person. Calling someone "my slave" generally indicates a relatively sophisticated, ongoing relationship between the two of you.

SUBMISSIVE One who yields control. One who obeys orders adn may permit themselves to be bound if doing so pleases their dominant or Master.

TOP'S DISEASE An unwarranted attitude of superiority taken by a domiant. Believing that bottoms are somehow inferior and treating them so in either obvious or subtle ways. Usually a sign of insecurity or ignorance. Dominants who suffer from Top's Disease often (surprise, surprise) complain about how hard it is to find people willing to play with them. a mirror image of this syndrome is called Bottom's Disease.

TWO SQUEEZES A "squeeze signal" between players used to non-verbally signal that, "I'm all right."

WORSHIP To adore the personage of the dominant. Often combined with performing some service to the dominant's body such as massaging, kissing, or licking their feet or boots, massaging their body, bathing them. Explicitly sexual activity, such as performing oral sex on the dominant, may or may not be a part of such play.

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